BDSM, short for “Bondage and Discipline, Domination and Submission, Sadism and Masochism,” is not just about marginal sexual activities. It’s a whole complex universe where power, desire and confidence mix together in a consensual way.
So let’s talk about the cornerstone of any BDSM relationship : the BDSM contract. Basically, BDSM is this world where desire, power and submission intertwine. It may seem a little mysterious, but for some couples it’s a unique way to explore their intimacy.
After having discussed aftercare which represents post-sex and its good practices, here is a specific part on the before. ❤️
What is BDSM Contract?
Imagine it as an agreement between you and your partner, here between dominant and submissive, before diving into the world of BDSM. It’s like a little guide that defines what you want to explore together, what is allowed and what isn’t.
This gives some structure to your intimate play, so everyone feels safe and knows what’s going on.
And just so you know: the contract can absolutely be verbal! 💬
Why write up a contract?
This is crucial because it helps avoid misunderstandings and embarrassing situations. By setting clear rules and limits, everyone knows where they stand. It creates a space of trust where everyone can let go and really enjoy themselves without worrying.
Writing up a BDSM contract can actually be pretty exciting. You get to imagine and talk about all your fantasies… it’s super stimulating, so why not go all in? 🥵
Oh, and just a heads up: the BDSM contract doesn’t hold any legal weight. 👩💼
Our application: Couple Game
In our Couple Game app you can create and complete your own challenges. It’s a great way to dip your toes into BDSM fantasies. We recommend writing them together and always respecting each other’s boundaries. 😎
It’s a fun way to try new things while showing yourself some love. So don’t hesitate any longer and have fun in complete safety! ❤️
Are you looking for ideas for extreme challenges? We have an article about this 👉 Examples of hot challenges
How to make a BDSM contract?
It’s pretty simple and flexible. Your contract should reflect your relationship and what feels right for both of you. 🥰 Take some time to chat with your partner about what you want and what’s comfortable. Then, jot down your agreements so everything’s crystal clear. You can even find some templates online to help you get started.
Safe words and limits
One of the golden rules of BDSM is having a safe word: a special word that lets the submissive speak up or end things if needed. And don’t forget to make a list of all the sexual stuff you want to try: what’s cool, what’s not, and what’s maybe. This part’s super important and shouldn’t be skipped! 🫵
Be super clear about what you’re cool with when it comes to pain. And talk about whether you’re okay with any marks being left behind. This stuff helps make sure everyone feels safe and respected during BDSM play. Remember, it’s all about pleasure! 🤤
Example of clauses in a BDSM contract :
Here are some typical clauses you might find in a BDSM contract:
How long the contract lasts.
How to change the contract and what both parties need to agree on.
What the dominant is responsible for and what the submissive can expect.
Making sure everyone stays safe during BDSM sessions.
The importance of mutual consent and how to say yes or no.
Having a safe word to stop things if they get too intense.
Keeping things private.
If there are any expectations about being exclusive.
How to end the contract if things aren’t working out.
This list isn’t set in stone and can change depending on what you and your partner want.
In a nutshell, the BDSM Contract is a super exciting way to explore your sexuality safely and with mutual consent. By setting clear rules and respecting each other’s boundaries, you can create a really intimate and fulfilling experience for both of you.
